Being a mother is one of the best things I’ve ever done but it’s also one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. You know that it will be tiring as you have a little human depending on you for everything but no one tells you how isolating and lonely it can be. I’m not writing this to complain as I’m aware I have been very blessed with my children (one 2 year old, one in heaven and one due next week).
As a young mum I’ve chosen that I want to be at home to look after my children until they are older as I don’t want to miss precious time with them but also I don’t see the point in spending my wage on childcare (I do one day a week as an agency neonatal nurse). But as a stay at home mum for the rest of the week it is completely a full time job but is often viewed as a job where you just laze around at home, so why haven’t you don’t the dishes or cleaned the house completely. Looking after a little person is exhausting, great fun, time consuming, and at times lonely and isolating. If you do not have friends who have children or don’t engage in groups you can often spend the day alone with only a toddler for conversation which is enough to drive anyone insane. I am so thankful for my friends and their children and the groups I attend as they keep me sane and give me adult company that I desperately need. We may never finish a conversation or have an uninterrupted chat but they are my lifeline.
As a stay at home mum you can also feel like you lose you’re identity. Suddenly you are just so and so’s mum and everything you were before seems like a distant memory. Doing my one day a week at work has helped keep me in touch with my identity as a nurse but at times I even forget this. Recently since starting the bible in a year I’ve been reminded as my identity of a daughter in Christ! This helps remind me of my purpose and that my current role as a mum is the most important one I can do as I shape minds of the future. There is no job more important that I can do at the moment and soon enough I will regain my identity as other than a mother when my children are grown and no longer need me as much.
So for you stay at home mums you are amazing and doing a brilliant job! For those who choose to work you are also amazing and doing a brilliant job! No matter how you choose to raise your kids you are wonderful.