So we reached the age of potty training slightly before our second child arrived. How did we know? Well my child told me when she needed the toilet and if she was naked would just take herself off to do it.
We didn’t really have a magic formula for it but there was an amazing book we read called “Oh crap potty training”. It brought some humour to it along with practical tips. What we found most helpful was:
– Give it your all. Don’t do it half heartedly. It won’t work. Your child will sense it and you’ll give up at the first hurdle.
– Be patient. It’s a hard skill to learn.
– Be relaxed. If you’re too uptight your child will sense it and probably have more accidents and be nervous. Don’t expect too much. They are only small and won’t always get it straight away.
– The more open your family are about their toilet habits the easier your child will find it. Thankfully this is quite easy in our house as I never go to the toilet alone anymore and Beatrice is always wanting to help mummy on the loo. Also they’ll very likely scream across the playground to you that they need a poo so I hope you’re not too shy.
– Find a potty that works for you out and about. We took our potty from home out once and after she insisted on carrying it in her arms I decided we needed something smaller, more discreet and easier to transport. Enter the ‘potette plus potty!’ It is small, compact and so easy to use. We don’t buy their bags to go on it. We just use compost bags that are a lot cheaper and do the job.
– And finally, make sure you have a good carpet cleaner or hardwood floors and don’t be too precious about your furniture.
Something I’ve also learnt is the bond it builds with your child. You really don’t know love until you’ve had to sit holding your child’s hands as they gaze lovingly into your eyes whilst trying to do a poo. It’s a rather unnerving experience particularly as they go red and the eye contact becomes more fixed but your love for your child gets you through it and it also brings a lot of humour into catch ups with your other half.
It’s a big step in your toddlers life and a fascinating and eye opening journey as a family, so strap in for the ride and enjoy.